Below is a story shared by an American woman on Facebook.
She claims her fiance beat her to the point of getting hospitalized. She said she suffered bleeding in the brain and almost lost her eye as a result of the beating she got from the man who refused to stop despite several pleas. Read below.
”I usually don’t post my business on Facebook, but last night I was almost beat to death by my fiancé. I pleaded for my life in front of my kids and bestfriend all while this man said no he was going to kill me. So let me expose this monster for who he really is. I had to be life flighted to Presbyterian hospitals trauma unit and have an emergency surgery to save my eye, with also bleeding on the brain and numerous cuts scratches and brises all over my body. This is my testimony to save the next woman from domestic violence it’s not okay. I ask that my Facebook family and friends continue to pray for me and my kids, this is going to be a hard journey but we will make it through! I ask that you continue to left us up in prayer, thank for all the text, calls, and everyone who’s reached out it’s greatly appreciated”.
Back home in Nigeria, a writer, Mercy Makinde shared her own domestic violence story.
”Years ago I was a Victim today I AM A VICTOR! It took 10 years for me to heal…10 years to find myself!
Yes, the damage of Violence is long term and grave and can leave you permanently scarred. The trauma could last a life time!
I am just one out of the lot! Yes, many women still suffer Domestic violence because it remains widespread and often considered “socially acceptable” in Nigeria. This is the reason family, friends and even some religious bodies do not see domestic violence as such a big deal.
They would even say it is the fault of the woman. She would be advised to keep her tongue in check, as that is often the factor that ignites the provocation of an abuser from the standpoint of an average Nigerian.
The truth is, Domestic violence is an organic behavior; there is no direct cause. Victims often blamed themselves, as they are often times made to believe they are the cause. So they always have to walk on eggshells, as inconsequential infractions would often lead to unwarranted agitation and eventual pummeling.
But Domestic Violence IS NOT A RESULT OF PROVOCATION. I’m writing this in capital letters and I hope it sinks in! Violence and Abuse is a tool used to enforce control and fear in a relationship or marriage and not a momentary expression of anger.
So it is not about what the women did it is more about the way abusers are…just like you don’t have to do anything to be raped by a rapist!
These are men who have lost control of their senses and are overwhelmed at the slightest provocation. So stop judging victims by saying they were battered because of an imagined, perceived or rumored wrong or asking them annoying questions like “what did you do that made him beat you”. Questions like these are unintelligent and insensitive.
There is NO EXCUSE for Violence Against Women. And yes, no excuse for violence against men either.
Don’t justify it….don’t judge them!
I am a Victim turned Victor ready to help other victims. Join in , let’s make a difference!”
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