Popular Gospel ministers, Damilola and Bukola have recounted how their marital journey has so far been.
In a chat with Tope Omogbolagun, the couple opened up on the secret of their marriage of 11 years.
Read excerpts below:
How did you meet your husband?
Bukola: We met in the church. God orchestrated the meeting.
Damilola: I met her in church during anointing service. Apparently, she knew before me that I would be her husband, but I got to know later after God revealed her to me.
How did you know he was your husband/wife?
Bukola: I knew that he was my husband by divine instruction. I also knew before him that he was the will of God for me and I waited for him to hear from the Lord. It was tough waiting for him because during the waiting time he called me one day and told me to stop coming to his house so that the lady he was dating wouldn’t think he was double dating.
I visited his house regularly because he stayed close to Ebute-Meta, not too far from where I usually held rehearsals at our church headquarters. Most of the rehearsals were vigils and I attended anointing service at Abule Odu the next day. He usually attended the anointing service too, so I always stopped by at his house to make my journey easy to the programme. That was why I usually went to his house so that we could attend services together. When he knew that I was his wife and he was convinced, he called me and I accepted.
Damilola: It was tough because before then, I had my plans initially to be in the United States to marry a medical doctor. However, God didn’t allow the plan to materialise, because He had a better purpose for both of us. At the end, He revealed her to me but before then I had ‘innocently’ told her not to visit my house so that it wouldn’t appear that I was double-dating as I had a fiancé. I had another lady I was dating after the US plan didn’t work. So when I knew afterwards that she’s the one for me, I had to appeal to her to kindly see me. Thank God for my covenant brother and friend, Pastor Dayo Adepetun, that God placed by our side.
For how long did you court before marriage?
Bukola: We dated close to two years.
Damilola: We dated close to two years
When did you get married?
Bukola: We got married in 2006.
What stood out for you on your wedding day?
Bukola: Everything about our wedding day was awesome, starting from the engagement to the church service and the reception. The church service was a concert and the reception was awesome. Everything stood out from the beginning to the end.
Damilola: Our wedding was a musical event. The glory of God came down. There was the part where the pastor asked the congregation that, “Is anyone here that objects to this union?” I prayed to God not to allow anyone to raise their hand because of my past escapades. Thank God there was no objection.
What lessons have you learnt from marriage?
Bukola: One thing I held onto before marriage was that it must work and also no room for divorce. The two statements have kept me going till today and forever it will be. We’ve been through many things but the Lord has kept us. We do argue over things but as the Bible says in Ephesians chapter 4 verse 26, “We shouldn’t let the sun go down on our anger.’’ We have decided never to go to bed angry, we must talk through any disagreement and this has really kept us going. Communication has also helped us this far. We are good talkers; we don’t hide things from each other because it’s difficult to do.
Damilola: Wait on God for His will, you will enjoy it, even if challenges appear, He will always see you through.
What is your advice to young people on marriage?
Bukola: For those about to marry, they should fear and serve God. They should make sure that they are in tune with the Holy Spirit. Don’t marry of your will but of God’s will. If you do that, you will be happy at the end of the day.
