Nollywood actress Dayo Amusa has finally shared her testimony following the birth of her first child.
Kemi Filani reported a month back that the Yoruba actress had welcomed a baby boy after years of waiting for a child.
In a lengthy post on her Instagram page, she recounted her ordeals and revealed that she wanted to be a complete woman, but she had 3 miscarriages. In 2015, she was diagnosed with uterine myomatosis, , and some doctors recommended removing her womb, but she rejected it. She, however, opted to do surgery, which was successful. Unfortunately for her, she and her partner’s attempt to welcome a child failed and her partner got someone pregnant.
She stated that in 2019, she and her husband decided to try IVF, but all their efforts were negative, and her impatient husband walked away from the relationship after she rejected his idea of getting someone else pregnant.
She stated that she became frustrated and very sad and withdrew from everyone and her mother advised her to relocate overseas.
“MY TESTIMONY!!!
I never thought I would get to this moment but GOD knew.
For as long as I can remember, I knew I wanted to be a complete ideal woman ( a wife and mom ). Having had 3 miscarriages, in 2015, I was diagnosed with uterine myxomatosis, and some doctors recommended removing my womb due to the complications and discomfort I experience every month during my menstrual cycle. I decided to fight and reject that option. I was on medications, injections, and treatments to stop the growth of tumors until my uncle’s wife advised me to come to the UK for treatment.
14th of Feb. 2015, I had the surgery to remove the tumor via TCRE Laparoscopy dye ovarian drilling procedure as I was really afraid of being open… In 2016 myself and my then-partner decided to try again as we were so eager to welcome our 1st child together but later discovered one of my tubes was broken and it would be almost impossible to get pregnant naturally. Men as men, my then partner was involved with another woman unknown to me, which produced a baby boy. After so many ups and downs, back and forth, na so the whole thing ended (Story for another day).
Fast forward to Jan 2019, my supposed husband and I kept trying to no avail, and then we decided to try IVF, but all efforts had negative outcomes. My supposed husband was really impatient with me; he was over 40 years old and was insisting on having a child that year. He proposed if I could allow him to get someone else pregnant while am waiting on my miracle baby, and when I couldn’t live with that, he walked away and ofcourse, got someone else pregnant months later and that produced him a baby girl”.
“I became frustrated and very sad. I withdrew and isolated myself; I lost my purpose and lost interest in almost everything that mattered to me, even distancing myself from my family and friends. My career suffered the most as I gradually lost focus and interest in my passion. I ran into my shell battling with depression for many years. Even though it appeared to the world out there that everything was fine with me as I always wore a mask of a happy face But I never lost faith that sooner or later God would hear my innermost hidden prayers and fulfill my desires. What I value the most is the change that God made in my heart and mindset during my wait despite all the names calling to the level of being publicly called a BAREN.
There’s this misconception that if someone is smiling, they’re okay. If someone is talking about it or has not spoken about it, they must be okay. But the reality is… it’s often hard to be okay when you’re faced with the challenges of waiting / infertility.
Is it the constant blame, self-doubt, name-calling, fear of the unknown, waiting, pain, comparison, sadness, anger?
It’s all so heavy. It is a full-time job. It often wreaks havoc on once mental health, relationships, career, productivity and even finances.
All this time, my mum (my world) would suggest I relocate to the United States or the United Kingdom. She would advise me to have a change of environment and breathe new soil as it was obvious I wasn’t living the life anymore; instead, life was leaving me. She once bought me the full return ticket as I’ve not been working and was financially unstable as of then. After so much persuasion, In 2021, I gave in to her advice to have a change of environment and that was when the story changed.
