Nollywood actress Dupe Jayesimi has opened up on her inability to conceive and her failed marriage.
In an emotional interview with Biola Bayo for her Talk to B podcast, she revealed that before she got married, she was pregnant but had a miscarriage, which led to a marital dispute between her and her husband, who would always use a pillow to demarcate their bed. Jayesimi revealed that when her marriage failed, her husband didn’t waste time to move on and brought in his pregnant girlfriend to their matrimonial home.
Dupe disclosed that when she was around 40 years old, she got pregnant,, but the doctors found out the baby was at the back of her womb, and this made her broken. She admitted that she questioned God. The veteran Yoruba actress said despite being childless, she helped raise many children, who unfortunately turned their backs on her.
She stated that she doesn’t know how it feels to be celebrated by one’s own child as she hasn’t seen anyone celebrate her, but before, as long as she is alive, there is hope.
“When I was pregnant, I was happy. It was later, the doctors observed that the baby was at the back of my womb. It was like I should get swallowed by the ground.
I questioned God, “I shouldn’t lie after so many years. I was 40 years old when it happened.
My mum refused and said I should adopt any child, that she would feed the child till death. So many children that I have taken good care of don’t even look back to check on me. Is it my younger sister’s kid, or name them?
For now, I have no other job than theatre, and it isn’t paying like before. May God not let me suffer in old age. It has been seven years since I worked last.
I did marry when I was pregnant, but weeks after,, I had a miscarriage. Whenever my husband and I wanted to sleep, he would use a pillow to demarcate the bed. So our body wouldn’t touch.
Two weeks after I left my husband’s house, he had a new wife come in immediately with pregnancy. I cried. I am not an alcohølic person, but because of that, I did turn into a drunkard.
I determined I wasn’t going to marry. I did IVF twice, and it got to a stage where I used to see a drop of blood every evening.
My father told me I shouldn’t fight anyone over their things: property, money and men.
I know how it is to be celebrated by your own kids. I haven’t seen anyone to celebrate me before. I believe that no one will ever die and get dropped on the roadside. And they say it’s because she didn’t give birth. If there’s still life there’s always hope”.
Dupe Jayesimi isn’t the only celebrity who has battled with inability to have a child. In January, Eniola Badmus had broken into tears over her inability to have children. The movie star, during her charity event, prayed for the fruit of the womb, as she urged those in attendance at the event to pray for her as she desires to be a mother and have children.
Actor Stan Nze, in an Instagram post, recounted how people called his wife barren and advised him not to be with her. Luckily for them, God blessed them with their first child, a baby boy, in 2023.
Actress, Dayo Amusa opened up on her journey to motherhood. She recounted how she broke down in tears in front of her domestic workers as she cried to her Maker, giving him an ultimatum to either take her life or fulfil his promise for her as she noted how she had undergone several medical checkups and surgeries.
Yoruba actress, Tawa Ajisefinni, who welcomed her first child last year after many years of marriage, recounted how she was constantly trolled by many because of her inability to give birth. She noted how they taunted her and called her names, like barren women, which brought tears to her eyes.
