Nollywood actor IK Ogbonna has spoken on the silent struggles in modern marriages.
In his Instagram story, he spoke about the silent power struggles that often arise between mén and women in African homes. According to him, African men and powerful women always battle for identity and control, and this escalates into conflict.
He said tensions in many homes don’t usually start as conflict but admiration, as the man is drawn to her strength and she is attracted to his confidence. But, with time, things shift as ego meets ego and pride meets independence.
“One of the most untalked about issues in modern marriages. Especially among African men and powerful women, is the silent battles for identity and control.
It doesn’t always start as conflict. In fact, it often begins with admiration.
He is drawn to her strength.
She is attracted to his confidence.
But somewhere along the line, unconsciously,
Ego meets ego
Pride meets independence.
Culture meets ambition.
Many African men are raised to lead, but not always taught how to lead with a woman who can lead too
Many women, especially those who have built their own, are taught to protect their independence, but not always how to be vulnerable without feeling small.
So what starts as love becomes a power struggle.
Not because they don’t love each other.
But no one taught them to love each other’s strengths without feeling threatened.
This is the root of many unspoken fights, resentments, distance, and ego wars.
And sadly, many never talk about it.
They just drift”.
In other news, IK Ogbonna had spoken about today’s fame culture. He noted how clout has become the new currency, and many people are desperate to spend it. Ogbonna said that, unknowingly to them, not all fake is created equal, and forced fame might get one quick recognition and momentary, but it wouldn’t last.
