Renowned and often controversial writer and relationship expert, Solomon Buchi, recently took to Twitter to reveal that sometimes people say “it can never be me” until the unexpected happens to them.
In his tweet, Buchi highlights the common tendency of people to declare, “I can never take this in life” or “I’ll never take this in marriage,” only to eventually find themselves in precisely the situations they once vehemently rejected. He suggests that life has a way of leading us down paths we never intended to tread and throws us into circumstances we never anticipated.
Importantly, Buchi does not advocate that individuals should invite or wish for negative experiences into their lives. Instead, he encourages humility and understanding in the face of sad happenings.
Furthermore, Buchi goes into the idea of gray areas in life. He points out that sometimes there are gray areas in life as opposed to the black and white we are used to. Life, as he notes, can be far from straightforward, and sometimes it forces individuals to confront circumstances they never thought they would.
As people grow older, Buchi argues, they tend to gain a deeper understanding of this truth. The unexpected challenges of life can become more clear with age, leading to a more understanding perspective on one’s own life and the lives of others.
“I’ll tell you this: anyone who’s always saying “I’ll never take this in life.” “1’ll never take this in marriage”, “it can’t be me.” People like this, in most cases, end up in such situations. My dear, you’ll take it, and it will be you. Life will squeeze out humility from you. I’m not asking anyone to wish themselves evil. However, when you see evil happen, humbly understand that it could be you, but it wasn’t you. Humbly pray that you don’t find yourself in such mess. Humbly understand that you’re not better than who it happened to.
When the rigid man eventually falls into their unimaginable realities, they break. It breaks them, because it’s more than them, it’s their ego. “How could it be me?” “But I’m better than that person it happened to?” This is ego, and though difficult to tame, it’s profitable to.“
