Nollywood actor IK Ogbonna’s estranged wife, Sonia, has shared her thoughts on women ranting on social media.
This is coming shortly after actress Tonto Dikeh set the Nigerian internet abuzz with several unsavoury allegations against her ex-husband, Olakunle Churchill on social media.
After Tonto’s outburst, a number of people were of the opinion that she went about it the wrong way while others felt ranting on social media was her healing process.
Sonia has taken to her Instagram page to share her opinion on the issue. According to her, someone can drive a person mad in an abusive and toxic relationship behind closed doors but make the victim seem like the person at fault in public.
Explaining further in her caption, she wrote: “It mostly applies on men, not because “men are evil beings “ (trust me there are some amazing guys out there) but simply because men know society will ALWAYS favor them . A woman can be mentally & physically abused for years and be blamed for what she is facing at the same dame time! WILL YOU NOT GO CRAZY??! If she tries to leave, they will shout “go back & fix your home”. Back where?! And who will fix the broken you? Some even justify violence and acts of criminal offenses with “no marriage is perfect” .. are you people ok? Many guys don’t even bother being better men to their women because they were taught that women HAVE NO CHOICE & culture and society makes our voices meaningless (we almost labeled as mad, delusional, bad, senseless and crazy when we try to stand for ourselves) and our pain is absolutely normalized, you suffer in silence and on your own while smiling on the outside (if your own mother tells you “go back & pray harder”, who you really get support from?). No matter situation , no matter what you put her through , its woman’s fault & she “caused it”… right? …. OK…….Then all of a sudden ….there goes SOCIAL MEDIA… A voice to voiceless LOL . A platform where people realize that they are not alone in what they are facing.. a platform where women unite & support one another. Ranting is too much? Trust me, I don’t believe in confession of negativity in any way, but you have to understand that rantings u hear are nothing comparing to what we go through. Do u have an idea how it feels like to be a female in this society? Oppressed left right and center with idiotic, unrealistic expectations towards us where a “good woman” is almost literally defined as supernatural slave. But that’s none of your problems. However, out of the sudden, SOCIAL MEDIA got y’all in your feelings, shaking & praying for “good women” Out of the sudden, yall have opinions Things are about to change for good so I advise: stop living in your grandparents era and try & be ( or learn how to be) a GOOD MAN first and trust me, no lady will ever have an emotional need to heal through social media rantings & best believe yall safe .”
