Author: Tanko Shekwa’aga
Every generation is expected to be the ladder on which the next is to ascends to become better. While this is quite important, only a few part of every generation get to understand this fact. Each generation has always been selfish, eating their ‘yams’ and forgetting the beings of tomorrow. How long shall we compel every generation to starting all over again?
Each generation has suffered what is been extended from the previous generation. Our challenges and problems today are products of what our parents did. A generational curse is a trend ignored by one generation and extends to another because no one stopped it. We are products of the choices of yesterday.
Many common mistakes have been painted in so many parents’ lives and these have in all ways extended to children’s lives. Sadly, these errors predispose children to an approximated point where parents unleash their frustrations. It’s sympathetic that most of our parents are sad with the points they are in life and this has affected their way of child upbringing. A great percentage of different family setting points to the parents’ feeling about their fulfillment. You’ll get to see that many people whom we think are bad are necessarily not, frustration could hide any man’s true identity.
Today, our prisons are inundated with several young people; nonchalant people on the streets, others who have homes tend to live in shackles as decisions and choices are imposed on them by their parents. I have a feeling most parents are raising zombies and not humans. I could conclusively say, our traumas are because our parents failed us. Many parents have failed at the point of loving, caring, guiding and praying for their children. A high percentage of parents concisely understands child upbringing to be meeting needs and enforcing decisions. Hence, the family becomes an official setting where the only people who find expressions are parents. It is their home and their children thus, nothing else matters except their satisfaction.
When these children grow up, they will act same way because they have been configured in a way that the only way to boss people’s lives is becoming a parent. That’s an error! Many children are termed illegitimate and unwanted because of the uncontrolled sexual urges of our parents. Walls of shame surround this set of children. The society will always cage them. The process of their birth is abused.
Many parents who have unachieved ambitions feel their children are the easiest way to accomplish it. I do not consider any of the phases wrong but I like us to understand that children are PURPOSE not ambition. Children shouldn’t be made what you were unable to become. They are created for something great that may differ from your ambitions.
A young man called my name one day and asked me “if I make it in life and abandon my father will I be wrong?” As I interacted with him, I could see the hardship he was made to pass through, I could understand that the father was frustrated because of certain things he couldn’t become. Every of his decision was surrounded by anger. My fear was now; I hope this young man won’t carry this same mentality to his home. I hope he will work hard not to make such a mistake.
Severally, I’ve found myself soliloquy these questions: Do we owe our parents anything? Between our parents and children, who do we owe more? As I watch and hear many young people of our time, I fear that the next generation is also in danger. There is no worst feeling as having your children complain of what you were also angry about your parents while you were a child. All hail the “slay mamas and swag guys”, the youthful life is but a season, it will soon be over. Your life is ticking, your story is been written, will you be glad to have your children face the product of your life with you? How many young people are really building ladders for the next generation? How many of these young ones are ready for parenting? One day, we shall watch a generation either rejoice or weep because of us. We are models in making. Will our children also say OUR PARENTS FAILED US? You owe a generation to come.
