Hey ladies, Lagos socialite Joro Olumofin has just shared tips on how to get boyfriend.
He shared the tips on his Instagram page moments ago, saying:
(1) Remove guys from your friendzone list: “Friendzone”
is a mental classification or categorization of a guy or group of guys
in a lady’s mind I.e she sees a guy as a non sexual object or as a
brother. Some single ladies today see having a lot of guys on their
friendzone list as an achievement or an award, they enjoy the fact that
guys keep trying to get their attention or approval while they call him
things like “bro” , “cuz” , “G” “padi” as a means to discourage him from
trying to talk to them.. My question is if you’re single and you’re
looking for a boyfriend why have so many guys as just friends without
giving them chances? Or opportunities to prove themselves. Marriage
counsellors have revealed that most couples were initially just friends
or co-workers. Un-friendzone some guys and see where it leads, you may
just be swept off your feet..
2) Smile Often ; Look Approachable: A lot of guys are discouraged to
approach a Lady who has a strong or mean face. They may be scared of
instant rejection or think you’re just mean. Primacy Effect in
Psychology makes emphasis on first impression being an important factor
in perception. So Ladies if your face is strong and your heart is soft
make an effort to smile more.
(3) Change your normal routine (try a new church, bar, cinema, beach)
: If you’re a single lady and you’ve been attending the same church,
cinema, bars for the past 16 months and there is no visible suitor I
suggest you switch the branch of your church from Ikeja to Surulere, or
Apapa to VI. This is a Process known as randomization; doing something
different or attending new places will give you a new set of
possibilities of meeting new suitors.
(4) Eliminate Distractions : (Exs, Single minded friends, friends
with benefits etc ) : Exs that just hang around like vultures waiting
for drunk sex to happen again or standing in your way of moving forward
need to GO, “single minded friends ” ladies you may have that friend or
“friends” who wants you to be single because she’s single too and it’s
ok for you to have a boyfriend only when she has a boyfriend, that
friend/ friends needs to go, friends with benefits only create a mirage
in your mind because you’re being emotionally and physically satisfied
but there isn’t any strong commitment so you find yourself in a quandary
or dilemma because you’re living for the moment and not the future.
(5) Open Mindset and Reasonable Standards : Some Ladies have crafted
and created their boyfriends or husbands in their minds, they have
played the role of creator in the Cognitive Archetypes so any guy who
doesn’t meet a particular standard or level shouldn’t even bother
walking up to them. No one is saying lower your standards but there are a
lot of guys with potential out there…not everyone can be 100% and
complete when you meet them.
(6) Go out less with your friends : Obviously this doesn’t mean you
should be a recluse but there are sometimes when you should just be that
pretty or stunning lady at the mall or movies. Studies have shown that
men feel more comfortable approaching a lady who is alone than with a
group of ladies. Some ladies feel uncomfortable or think it’s a taboo to
go out alone and feel that they would look desperate or awkward but
ladies write your own rules, what works for others may not work for
you..
(7) Be Active on social media : some people may disagree but social
media when used properly can be a good medium for meeting people. Some
ladies from January to August don’t post a single picture of themselves,
their favorite football club, favorite movie, favorite political party
on their BBM or Instagram they are basically Ghosts and observers. By
posting a picture of anything you can attract a similar mind like
yourself for you to at least start a conversation. It takes just one
conversation to start something special
8) Attend organizations that are 60% male dominated ( gym, dance
club, weddings) : Attending the gym often is not only good for giving
you a great body but also for meeting guys and you being the centre of
attraction, weddings are the most popular in recent times and there are
more males than females at weddings. Weddings have been credited for
initiating a lot of marriages and relationships
(9) Rebrand / Repackage yourself: While Staying true to yourself and
upholding your ideals and goals. Focus on making yourself better than
who you were yesterday by hard work, eating healthy, networking, working
out, SELF LOVE and attitudinal orientation because if you don’t believe
in your self no one will believe in you
(10) Pray: this is the most Important factor when searching for a boyfriend. Prayer does things that science cannot explain.
Remember having a boyfriend doesn’t make you complete, and being
single doesn’t make you incomplete. Above all do what makes you happy
and what is beneficial to you, stay true to yourself and have reasonable
standards … #DoktorMofin
