Brand expert Kenny Brandmuse
who recently revealed his HIV status, took to his Facebook page hours ago, to announce that he is Gay. He says he was married for 6 years but finally sought for divorce from his wife when he realized he was gay.
Read his story below:
“I first told my ex-wife that I was
gay, we were far from being married. I wanted her to find other men honorably,
who had a thing for women. I never did. I ‘swear down.’ I was only obeying the
popular When demand of traditions. Now, this was my terrible mistake. No one
should live their life based on dogmas and other people’s expectations.
gay, we were far from being married. I wanted her to find other men honorably,
who had a thing for women. I never did. I ‘swear down.’ I was only obeying the
popular When demand of traditions. Now, this was my terrible mistake. No one
should live their life based on dogmas and other people’s expectations.
As far
as I could remember, even though I was always dating girls, I had always
preferred being with a man. I had fought it with every fiber of spirituality in
me as a Pentecostal preacher boy (find details and journeys in my book ‘THE
EXODUS.’)
as I could remember, even though I was always dating girls, I had always
preferred being with a man. I had fought it with every fiber of spirituality in
me as a Pentecostal preacher boy (find details and journeys in my book ‘THE
EXODUS.’)
The more I fought my sexual preference for men, the more I became
more miserable. Unfortunately, as erroneously believed, sex wasn’t the problem.
I had been having sex with women as far back as a twelve-year-old. Sexuality is
whom we are emotionally present with, not whom we are sleeping with. And oh
boy, she really tried to make me a heterosexual. But I’m still not, sadly.
more miserable. Unfortunately, as erroneously believed, sex wasn’t the problem.
I had been having sex with women as far back as a twelve-year-old. Sexuality is
whom we are emotionally present with, not whom we are sleeping with. And oh
boy, she really tried to make me a heterosexual. But I’m still not, sadly.
One of those pre-marriage days,
while we were with our marriage counseling team, I brought up the issue again –
that I had always had a preference for men. I wanted the Ministers to dissuade
her from the marriage. I just couldn’t put a ring on a fat big lie. My father
taught me one principle: DIE FOR YOUR OWN TRUTH, EVEN IF IT’S UNPOPULAR, BUT
DON’T HARM OTHERS WITH IT.
while we were with our marriage counseling team, I brought up the issue again –
that I had always had a preference for men. I wanted the Ministers to dissuade
her from the marriage. I just couldn’t put a ring on a fat big lie. My father
taught me one principle: DIE FOR YOUR OWN TRUTH, EVEN IF IT’S UNPOPULAR, BUT
DON’T HARM OTHERS WITH IT.
She was so happy to tell the ministers, as quickly
as she could, that my feelings for men would all be gone, because she believed
it was a childhood disorder. I guess she meant she was going to fck my brains
into heterosexuality. This is a mistake a lot of us make. We all want to change
people to conform to our preferences. We find it easier to play god in the
lives of people we did not make.
as she could, that my feelings for men would all be gone, because she believed
it was a childhood disorder. I guess she meant she was going to fck my brains
into heterosexuality. This is a mistake a lot of us make. We all want to change
people to conform to our preferences. We find it easier to play god in the
lives of people we did not make.
After six years together, I knew I
was not getting any better. I STILL LOVED MEN.
was not getting any better. I STILL LOVED MEN.
And one day, because I didn’t
want to cheat on her, I humbly asked her that we should go our separate ways.
That was when all hell broke loose. She suddenly forgot about how it all
started. In court, she told the Judge how she suddenly found out that I was
gay, and how it’s against the Law of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. In other
words, she wanted me sentenced to the new 14 years jail term served by the
Nigerian government.
want to cheat on her, I humbly asked her that we should go our separate ways.
That was when all hell broke loose. She suddenly forgot about how it all
started. In court, she told the Judge how she suddenly found out that I was
gay, and how it’s against the Law of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. In other
words, she wanted me sentenced to the new 14 years jail term served by the
Nigerian government.
Luckily, I was in a civil court. Sadly, that day, I had to
duck my face in shame as the crowd jeered at me for being whom I had always
been. ‘You faggot’ ‘Oh what a shameful man!’ ‘homo!’ ‘Na wa o ‘ I still don’t
know how I walked out of the court premises that day. ( this case is still
ongoing) What about my business.? Tell any client in Nigeria that you are gay,
and you lose their business. That’s exactly what happened. I lost friends,
businesses, sponsorships and family members. I had to start my life all again.
duck my face in shame as the crowd jeered at me for being whom I had always
been. ‘You faggot’ ‘Oh what a shameful man!’ ‘homo!’ ‘Na wa o ‘ I still don’t
know how I walked out of the court premises that day. ( this case is still
ongoing) What about my business.? Tell any client in Nigeria that you are gay,
and you lose their business. That’s exactly what happened. I lost friends,
businesses, sponsorships and family members. I had to start my life all again.
Applied for a new job. Get back to school. Although my ex-wife is one of the
most faithful and beautiful women in Nigeria, she is a victim of institutionalized
homophobia. Just like many people who are reading this.
most faithful and beautiful women in Nigeria, she is a victim of institutionalized
homophobia. Just like many people who are reading this.
It will be exactly a year today,
when Nigeria instituted a law to jail people like me. What’s our offense?
Because we are simply wired differently. There are only about 5 to 10% of homosexuals
in every population as cited by popular findings and documents. Why is a 90%
dominant population afraid of its 10%? Shouldn’t you care about us? Don’t you
think it’s a lot easier to be seen as part of the 90%? And before you throw
those religious verses on us for being wired differently, I want to leave you
with my favorite Bible verses from Romans 8:Italics mine:
when Nigeria instituted a law to jail people like me. What’s our offense?
Because we are simply wired differently. There are only about 5 to 10% of homosexuals
in every population as cited by popular findings and documents. Why is a 90%
dominant population afraid of its 10%? Shouldn’t you care about us? Don’t you
think it’s a lot easier to be seen as part of the 90%? And before you throw
those religious verses on us for being wired differently, I want to leave you
with my favorite Bible verses from Romans 8:Italics mine:
That Nothing Can Separate Us from (
the universal narrative of ) God’s Love
31 What shall we say about such wonderful things as these? If God is for us,
who can ever be against us? 32 Since he did not spare even his own Son ( in the
popular narratives according to the Christian Faith ) but gave him up for us
all, won’t he also give us everything else? 33 Who dares accuse us whom God has
chosen for his own? No one—for God himself has given us right standing with
himself. 34 Who then will condemn us? No one…
the universal narrative of ) God’s Love
31 What shall we say about such wonderful things as these? If God is for us,
who can ever be against us? 32 Since he did not spare even his own Son ( in the
popular narratives according to the Christian Faith ) but gave him up for us
all, won’t he also give us everything else? 33 Who dares accuse us whom God has
chosen for his own? No one—for God himself has given us right standing with
himself. 34 Who then will condemn us? No one…
38 And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love.
Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[b] neither our fears for
today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate
us from God’s love. 39 No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed,
nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God
that is revealed in ( in the narrative of ) Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[b] neither our fears for
today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate
us from God’s love. 39 No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed,
nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God
that is revealed in ( in the narrative of ) Christ Jesus our Lord.”
