I have been pondering on an
issue, a major thorn in my flesh. I hear stories of people getting
married to their first and only love and I go, really? I envy their
tenacity and the depth of their love. I mean, you met a man at the age
of 15, and you’re still together at 40 ? Mehn that’s some serious ish.
I am not here to give you love advice, for how can someone give
advice he has not taken himself ? How about us who are not so lucky to
meet that special person at 15 or date for years? I call this the broken
road that most of us travel; meet someone, date someone, have a fling
sometimes,meet someone better, faded interest after a while, or just
pure boredom. It has been called the Stopgap Theoryof Relationships by
Japheth Omojuwa.
You want love too and you want it to last forever. Well, what’s wrong
with the broken road ? Having several relationships tires you out
emotionally and even physically, makes you weary and might even make you
miss that special someone. What’s good about the broken road ? Well
,nobody is good at anything the first time. It makes you refine your
strategy, up your game and know what to look out for next time.
So what am I proposing? The broken road? No. The first love? Well, if
you’re lucky; but not all of us are. So what’s the best option? Date
them all! When I say date, I don’t mean getting serious. Hang out with
all your prospects, go out to the movies, to restaurants. Talk
extensively and have a feel for what their characters and personalities
are. You can do this with several people at the same time. Just make
sure you never ever utter the ‘L’ word. That’s the golden rule of this
method. Do not raise their hopes in anyway, you don’t want to leave
broken hearts on your trail.I’ll recommend 7 months for this.3 to get to
know them and 4 to see if you’re truly in love.Scientists have said
that if you still feel the way you do after 4 months,then you’re truly
in love. After months and years of doing this, you will surely meet the
one. Then it will be time to commit, and you will do it so willingly
without feeling trapped. You will know you have sieved through the soil
and came out with a diamond.
I love this song by Rascal Flatts
Every long lost dream, led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart
They were like northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God bless the broken road that led me straight to you
Happy loving
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