Encomium magazine, she revealed what has kept her marriage going for the past 18 years….
“I
would say first it is the fear of God. Then the fact that the reason we
do all we do or the person we are all answerable to is God. He is the
one guiding us. I would not lie to you that there was no time we almost
gave up on both sides but at the end of the day you know you are
answerable to God for whatever you do. There fore take your worry to
him. And the reason you don’t do anything stupid is because this person
is not you are answerable to ultimately but God. So when God knows you
depend on him that much, i think alone that helps you. Second is
patience. You have to be very patient in every relationship, not just
marriage. I feel very sad that a lot of people put so much pressure
these days on marriages succeeding or not as if it is an alien
relationship. The truth of the matter is that people fight their
fathers, you fight your best friends. So why is it that you feel that
you and your spouse can’t fight or quarrel?”
Speaking about her husband, Omotola said he’s been of great support to her
“He has been supportive. He has been an angel. He is my rock of
Gibraltar. I would say my husband is my fan so also my critic. Most
important he has been my pillar of support. If you are doing this job,
you feel like you always want to fear what somebody would feel about
you. When I am talking of somebody, I mean your parent or husband,
somebody that means something to you, that limits you as a creative
mind. God is my witness, my husband has never for once felt anything
negative about me being an actress. In 2016, we are going to celebrate
20 years of marriage. I can’t remember anytime I wanted to do anything
and he kicked against it violently. I have had to travel out of the
country sometimes, it may be the same day he would know. You are also
aware of the sensitivity of our job, we are very disorganized often
times. You know how it feels for you to tell your husband that one thing
you have been pursuing for the past three months, all of a sudden, you
just got a call that they have bought flight ticket for you and you are
going for maybe one week. So naturally that’s just something you would
say no, you can’t. But I would go and tell him and he would be like wow!
He would even encourage me to go. He is very understanding and very
supportive” she said
Omotola says featuring in the
movie, The Prostitute and the controversies that surrounded the movie
was the only time she felt her profession threaten her marriage.
“The
only time I would say I worried was when the movie, The Prostitute came
out and that was the first major shaking I had. It was like a kind
controversy. From the movie poster to the sex scenes, whatever in that
movie that was shot after I left there was shot as if I was the one who
did it. And you know Nigeria was not ready for that so there was a lot
of controversy around that. So that was the only time I really worried
about my marriage and to be frank and candid, until my husband told me
he wasn’t bothered, then I had peace”.
deserve to be jailed because that person is robbing the couple of their
joy.
“I think it should be a crime
for anyone to come in between a couple. I feel anybody that comes
between a married couple be a man or woman should go to jail. Such a
person is robbing the family of their joy. To me, it is a crime that is
worse than stealing another person’s property” she said. Continue
