A Nairaland user posted this thread on the platform moments ago and we decided to share it here, read through and tell us if you agree.
1. Many African ladies will end up singles for life because of media
exposure- it is so disheartening how a lady will glue her eyes on a
mobile phone from morning to night, only to raise it up to focus on
television to watch another celebrity entertainment channel. Tell me,
what else will dominate this lady’s mindset aside how to live a fake
celebrity life being promoted on television channels?
2. Many
African ladies now dislike cooking and home chores just because they had
been totally brainwashed by movies showcasing men playing the role of
women in a family, and due to excessive exposure to modern media that
promotes gender-equality in a destructive way that’s aimed at destroying
the unique African family setting that made our previous African
marriages everlasting and envious to the westerns. Now, with this
attitude, how do you expect a African man to desire to marry when he
knows he is only buying more headache and trouble than helper for
himself?
3. Excessive makeup turns most decent and serious-minded
men off- if you have observed, you will discover that most men dislike
excessive makeup, and more don’t even like it at all; reason they often
times discourage their true loved ones to do away with it cos it speaks
ill of a lady even though so many men will applaud and complement you
for looking like an Egyptian mummy. A slight makeup is okay; but if you
are out for marriage, try always to look simple and natural, it will
attract better men, decent and serious-minded, except you are still
living in your high school life and not thinking towards marriage.
4.
Stop Giving Your Number Out To Every Joystick & Harry! No man would
want to propose marriage to a lady whose phone is always talking and
laughing with un serious calls. You may not be a playgirl, but he would
judge you as one, and will likely flee at the slightest chance or
disagreement.
5. You Don’t Bring Any Value Into The Life Of Men
You Date or Are Dating- because your best friend married without
contributing anything to the man that finally married her, doesn’t mean
it will work for you that way. Think, work towards equipping yourself so
that you can be a value and also add value to his life to convince him
that you are worth committing to. Adding value to his life isn’t by
giving him money, or material gifts, nope….good counsels, being his best
friend, helping him attain his goals in life, lending him moral, mental
and spiritual support, and by not just being a liability that only
bring requests and problems to be solved.
6. Your Friends Run
Your Life- how do you expect to find a husband when you still allow your
clique of friends to be dictating which man you meet is worthy of your
love and which is not? When will you wake up and face the fact that
those your best friends even though they cherish you, wouldn’t want you
to marry before them or to marry the best man?
7. You Give
Everything Out During Dating- As a single lady who has not been taken to
the altar, you need to reserve some things for your husband to be,
especially your body, respect it and preserve it at all cost. In the
past, men rushed to marry to get certain things or privileges they had
been constantly denied while being single. Such privileges include and
not limited to: constant s*x and companionship, good food and tidied
home, etc. But today, a single man gets even the best and of course more
of constant s*x, good food and excellent home-keeping more than his
married counterparts, so tell me how the hell you want him to desire to
marry you when you have given him virtually everything he desires from a
wife while being his girlfriend? And the most painful part of it all is
that he knows that you are prepared to cut down on s*x supply, cooking,
home-keeping, etc once he marries you, so why would he not want you to
remain his girlfriend for life?
8. You Package Yourself Wrongly-
in your attempt to look sexy, adorable and maybe appealing to guys, you
have derailed from appealing to appalling. In fact you look more whorish
than modest; more unattractive than attractive, and more disgusting
than adorable. Your dressing style determines who gets attracted to you
most times. If you dress high school, only high school-thinking guys
will be attracted to you, and if you dress excessively sexy and
provocative, only randy men will come to you for urgent satisfaction of
their immediate s*x urge, so don’t be fooled by media hyping of certain
kinds of dressing, they are meant for certain set of ladies you wouldn’t
like to be associated with, be careful. Remember, not all clothes that
look sexy are good for a seriously searching for a soul mate single
lady.
9. You Lack Manners, Character, Wisdom and Good Home
Upbringing- definitely, your ‘hot girl’, ‘pretty girl’, ‘sexy girl’
looks will win you so many men; both the good, and the bad, but your
inner beauty, your character and manner are the things that will
determine whether any of those men would stay or run after accomplishing
their evil missions. In order words, do away with nagging, being
possessive, challenging with men in negative ways, the mentality of
‘what a man can do a woman can do better’, a lie devil has used to
deceive and destroy so many ladies today, please do away with it.
